Portrait of John K Grubb

Texas Divorce and Prenuptial Agreement

4550 Post Oak Place, Suite 201 • Houston, Texas 77027-3139

Phone: 713-877-8800 • Fax: 713-877-1229

Post Divorce Effects on Children

A recent study has shown that children who spend time with both parents after divorce or separation are doing just fine. To some that is surprising, to others it makes perfect sense. This study has also shown that children who spent most of their time with their mothers were fine as well. To put it simply this shows that the divorce or separation itself did not affect the results.
It is generally assumed that the more time a child has with both parents the better off the child will be both emotionally, and developmentally. Of course this is only possible when the parents are mature enough to allow co-parenting without having any fear for their child’s safety when they are in the care of the other parent.

The key point is that it wasn’t the arrangements of custody and care that most affected a child; it was the quality of the parents’ relationship, to share the finances, care and living arrangements for the benefit of the child.

Parents who are inclined to make their divorce more child centered and who take the time and make the effort to allow shared care are most likely to have children who are well adjusted even in the midst of a divorce. The characteristics of a shared care divorce include being genial to the other parent, keeping the lines of communication open and expressing the concern for the well being of the child.

Divorce doesn’t have to lead to what is referred to as a broken home, it can provide children instead with an extended home, and with parents who are able to put the child’s needs first and spend quality time with the child.

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